Sunday, December 4, 2022

Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age

 A common mistake some crossdressers and transgender women make is dressing too sexy. This often looks ridiculous – ESPECIALLY as you get older.

Does that mean you need to turn down your sex appeal after a certain age?

Absolutely not!

Instead, simply follow these 3 rules for dressing sexy at any age:

Rule #1: Show Some Skin (just not too much)

legs and red heels

Short skirts and low cut tops are undeniably sexy, but you shouldn’t go too far with this. Here are a couple guidelines to keep in mind:

  • Your skirt should be no shorter than fingertip length when you stand with your arms to your sides.
  • Your top should show no more than 40% of your bust.

At the same time, you shouldn’t be TOO covered up since that just screams “old lady.” Show off your feminine assets, but do so in a tasteful and classy way.

Rule #2: Find the Right Proportions

Proportion refers to the way your clothes work together in length, width, size and volume.

For example:

  • A short skirt paired with a short top tends to look slutty.
  • A long skirt paired with a long top looks dowdy.
  • A full skirt paired with a full top makes you look heavy.
  • A tight skirt paired with a tight top can make you look like a sausage (unless you have a perfect body!).
glittery pink ensemble
blue wardrobe
white flowing skirt and loose shirt
peplum skirt

You should never go too far in any one direction. That means if you wear something tight or skimpy, you should balance things out with the rest of your outfit.

For example:

  • A short skirt should be paired with a more covered top.
  • A skimpy top should be paired with a more covered bottom.
  • A tight skirt should be paired with a fuller top.
  • A tight top should be paired with a fuller skirt.
classy dress
black and green top and skirt
white blouse and black pencil skirt
short black dress and long legs

Rule #3: Wear Luxurious Fabrics

The final piece of the sexy puzzle is the fabrics you wear.

Think slutty and what comes to mind? A spandex skirt, barely there glittery top, and patent leather stripper boots, right?

Sexy, on the other hand, is associated with luxurious fabrics like silk, velvet, lace, and cashmere.

When shopping for clothes, look for fabrics that are rich and sensuous – rather than cheap and tacky.

shiny blue dress fabric
black lace dress fabric

Final Thoughts …

The bottom line is that you are NEVER too old to be your sexy femme self. Just be sure to keep it classy.

As always, I’ve love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Please leave me your comments below!

And if you’re already mastered the art of sexy ageless dressing, don’t forget to include a photo. 🙂


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Saturday, December 3, 2022

Male to Female Movement Mistakes to Avoid

 Clothes, hair, and makeup are important aspects of your feminine image.

But your MOVEMENTS say more about you than you probably realize.

It doesn’t matter how good you look… If your movements give off a masculine vibe (or worse, are exaggerated and unnatural), you’re probably not making the impression you hoped for.

The first step to mastering your feminine movements? It’s avoiding some common mistakes!

Here are 5 male to female movement mistakes to avoid – and what to do instead:

1. Over-Exaggerated Hip Swinging

woman with her hands resting on her hips

There’s nothing more alluring than the sexy sway of a woman’s hips as she walks. But you should never overdo this. In fact, if you are consciously swinging your hips, it’s probably too much.

A better approach is to simply put on a pair of high heels and walk naturally. Heels automatically cause your hips to sway. The key is to relax your body and go with the flow.

2. Stiff Body Movements

woman standing stiffly

Stiff isn’t sexy. As I mentioned earlier, the secret to fluid, feminine movements is to relax your body.

Tense muscles translate to stiff, masculine body movements. Focus on relaxing your body instead. Do stretching exercises to help release built-up tension.

3. Poor Posture

cartoon image of woman slouching

Your posture is the foundation for your movements. Here are two posture mistakes to avoid:

  • Slouching: If you’re tall, you might be tempted to slouch to downplay your height. Don’t. Slouching isn’t attractive and it definitely doesn’t make you look more feminine.
  • Arching your back: On the other extreme, avoid exaggerating your posture by arching your back and sticking your butt out. While you might think this looks “sexy,” it actually looks silly.

The fix for both of these mistakes is to stand tall with natural, lifted posture. This makes you look confident and feminine.

4. Stocky Shoulder Movements

Men carry their weight in their upper bodies, while a woman’s center of gravity is in her hips. In men, this often translates into strong upper body movements.

As you can see in the video above, the hallmark of a masculine walk is “stocky” shoulder movements. Compare that to the graceful sway of the women’s hips.

To counteract this tendency:

  • Keep your shoulders down and back. If you feel your shoulders coming forward, literally roll them back into place.
  • Focus on keeping your shoulders still while relaxing the hips. This will help transfer the movement to your lower body.
  • Keep your body weight neutral (or even slightly back) instead of leaning forward. This helps downplay the look of your shoulders.

5. Taking Up Too Much Space

lady sitting on a chair

There are many differences between male and female body language. One of the biggest differences is that men take up more space with their bodies while women tend to keep the space more closed.

How does this translate into movement?

  • When men walk, they typically have a space between their arms and body, while a woman’s hands brush her hips.
  • Men’s steps are longer and there’s often more space between the feet.

To correct this, rotate your elbows in so your arms stay closer to your body. Keep your feet closer together and take shorter steps when you walk.

Are you making the right moves?

Now that you know the most common mistakes, here’s another example of feminine movement to study and emulate. Notice the graceful posture, gently swinging hips, and relaxed body movements:

How feminine are YOUR movements? Do you struggle with this or are you one of the lucky girls who are naturally graceful?

Please share in the comments below!



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Thursday, December 1, 2022

Flawless Feminine Feet MTF

 When it comes to creating a feminine physique, you probably pay a lot of attention to your bust, legs, and booty. Those areas are all important – but let’s not forget your feet!

Many girls neglect their feet or feel self-conscious about their appearance. But with a bit of care, your feet can look as feminine and foxy as the rest of you.

After all, there’s something so alluring about showing off sexy feet in a pair of strappy sandals or stilettos!

Here are 6 ways to get flawless feminine feet:

1. Indulge in a Professional Pedicure

cartoon of feet having a pedicure

While you can yourself a pedicure, I recommend going to a salon for a total pampering experience. Plus, it’s easier to maintain pretty feet at home after you’ve let a professional remove your calluses, trim your cuticles, and reshape your nails.

Many men get pedicures with clear nail polish, so don’t feel shy about going to the salon in male mode. (Though of course, it’s much more fun en femme!)

2. Banish Foot Odors

hand touching foot

It’s hard to feel sexy and sensuous if you have stinky feet. The main cause of foot odor is sweat, so here are a few tips for controlling sweaty, smelly feet:

  • Try applying antiperspirant to the soles of your feet.
  • Take your shoes off when you’re at home to let your feet breath.
  • Wear cotton socks instead of polyester or nylon socks.
  • Put baking powder in your shoes. Sodium bicarbonate helps control the bacteria that causes foot odor.

3. Remove Excess Hair

pink razor

I’m always surprised how many girls (including cisgender / genetic women) neglect to remove the hair from their feet. Talk about a distraction! When you shave your legs, don’t forget to include your feet and toes.

4. Get Rid of Calluses

Amope Pedi Perfect Callus Remover

Sexy feet are soft and touchable, so exfoliation is a must. Fortunately, there are some great tools that make the job of removing calluses much easier. I love the Amope Pedi Perfect Electronic Foot File.

5. Do a Foot Soak

feet in a soaking in tub with flowers

Soaking your feet is a great way to get that spa experience at home – plus it leaves your feet clean and soft. Simply fill a basin with warm (not too hot) water and soak your feet for 10 minutes. To make the soak more effective and enjoyable, add some Epsom salt or scented bath salts.

6. Use a Rich Foot Cream

O'Keeffe's Healthy Feet Foot Cream

Feet take a lot of abuse during the day, so it’s important to care for them by applying moisturizer regularly. Feet require heavy duty moisture, look for a cream specifically designed for the feet. Some recommendations include:

Let’s see your fabulous feet!

I hope these tips inspire you to take wonderful care of your feet. I’d love to see the results, so please post your comments and pretty feet photos below!



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Goal of Passing as a Woman MTF

 “Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.

But it is really a goal worth pursuing?

If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.

I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!

It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.

That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.

Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.

Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.

Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.

Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.

The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.

Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!

As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.

Now I’d love to hear from YOU!

Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!


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Wednesday, November 30, 2022

How to Become a Sexy Woman?

 Want to know the secret to becoming a sexy woman?

Here’s what it’s NOT:

  • Wearing super short skirts and stripper heels
  • Putting on huge breast forms
  • Pouting your lips and sticking your butt out

True sexiness is a state of mind!

There are lots of small things you can do to boost your feminine sex appeal – without crossing the line from sexy to slutty.

Here are 4 must-try tips:

1. Wear Red

Color is a huge part of the impression you make on people. Each color has a meaning that is communicated on a subconscious level.

Without a doubt, RED is the sexiest color of all!

Red is associated with passion, desire, and love – so wear red to increase your feminine sex appeal. Even a few touches of red (like a red bag or heels) will put you in touch with your sensuous side.

2. Try a Sexy Workout

A fit, toned body is undeniably sexy. But that doesn’t mean you need to spend hours on a boring treadmill.

Instead, why not try a “sexy workout?”

Belly dancing, pole dancing, or cardio striptease will help you burn calories while channeling your inner seductress. These workouts will also help you achieve more feminine and fluid body movements.

Here are some sexy workouts to try:

3. Wear Sexy Lingerie

It’s hard NOT to feel sexy in a pretty bra and panties.

Even if you don’t plan to show off your underwear, wearing sexy lingerie under your clothes will make you feel more seductive and confident.

You should also get rid of any lingerie that doesn’t add to your sex appeal. This includes anything that’s worn out or that doesn’t fit properly. If it doesn’t make you feel hot, don’t keep it!

4. Make Seductive Eye Contact

The way you make eye contact communicates your level of confidence, femininity, and sex appeal.

It’s important to make eye contact, but at the same time, you don’t want to overdo it.

Here are 3 seductive eye contact skills to practice:

  • Look people in the eye, but break contact every 5 seconds or so. Staring too intensely can creep people out.
  • Try the triangle technique. When you are listening to somebody, look at one eye for 5 seconds, then the other eye for 5 seconds, and finally the mouth for 5 seconds. Continue rotating your gaze in this pattern.
  • Look from the side. To appear more flirtatious, try a sideways glance instead of looking at somebody straight on. Do this while smiling and raising the eyebrows slightly.

What makes YOU look and feel your sexiest?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this hot topic, so be sure to leave a comment below!



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Monday, November 28, 2022



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How to Walk Like a Woman - MTF

 Your walk is a critical aspect of your feminine image. Unfortunately, it’s easy to go from one extreme (a masculine walk) to the other (over-exaggerated hip swinging).

How can you find a happy medium as you master your feminine movements? Read on for 3 simple tips to help you achieve a natural, womanly walk.

1. Try the Hip Matrix

A big difference between men and women is that women tend to have more fluid body movements.

That means you can sway your hips all you want – but until you learn how to “loosen up,” your feminine walk will always look stiff and unnatural.

The Hip Matrix can help with this. Created by movement specialist Rob Brinded, the Hip Matrix exercise is designed to release tension and free up your body movements so you can achieve a flowing, feminine walk.

Watch the video above and then try it for yourself. If you compare your walk before and after, I promise you’ll be amazed by the difference! (Learn more about Rob’s approach to feminine movement in my Stepping Out Secrets Program.)

2. Practice in High Heels

variety of colored high heels

Women have a lower center of gravity than men due to their wider hips. This creates that sexy hip sway that’s characteristic of a feminine walk.

Forcing your hips to sway usually looks unnatural. Instead, practice walking in high heels. High heels change your center of gravity and exaggerate the forward curve of your spine. This helps release the hips, which naturally feminizes your movements.

You can enhance this effect by trying to keep your shoulders still as you walk. This forces you to use your hips for balance.

Once you’ve mastered hip walking in heels, practice the same movements in flat shoes.

3. Shorten Your Stride

in jeans and red high heels

Shortening your stride is another easy and effective way to feminize your walk.

The average woman’s step length (the distance from the toe of one foot to the toe of the opposite foot) is 26”. So if you want to be scientific about it, get out a ruler and measure your steps! Your natural stride is probably longer, so work on taking shorter steps.

Note: The higher your heels are, the shorter your steps should be.


There are other subtle elements that define a feminine walk, but these tips are a great place to start. Give them a try and let me know what you think!

I’d also love to hear about any other movement tips or techniques you’ve found helpful. Please share in the comments below.



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