Do you enjoy traveling? I sure do!
One of the things I love most about traveling is the chance to see the world – and myself – with fresh eyes.
Needless to say, traveling is also the perfect opportunity to crossdress or unleash your femme self away from the routines and expectations of home.
So I’d love to know…
Do you travel en femme?
Please take my poll and share your femme travel adventures (or dreams) below!
Love,
Jessica
Dresses, skirts, lingerie and shoes – where do you put all the shoes?! It doesn’t take long for a closet to fill up. The more cluttered it gets, the harder it is to tell what’s there and what fits beautifully on you.
The same can be said for the metaphorical closet. The longer you keep yourself hidden, the harder it is to see who you really are. That is a great loss to yourself and to your partner. Hiding who you are takes a lot of energy that is better spent on keeping the sparkle in your relationship and enriching your experiences in life. Hiding who you are also causes a lot of stress and unnecessary strain on you and your relationships.
If you are concerned that your secret life will hurt someone you care about, or that they will think less of you, consider instead that they are missing the opportunity of knowing the truly beautiful person you are. You are actually robbing them of the opportunity to love you completely.
The exciting thing about being in love is wanting to know everything you can about the person who makes your heart sing. You want to know their private intimacies, how they think, what turns them on, their history and story that made them who they are. You want to know these things because you love them and want to give them the best. Why would they not want the same of you?
I encourage you to love yourself first. Loving who you are, without shame, loving the whole you, frees your spirit so you can grow to be all that you are meant to be. What a gift to give yourself! What a gift to give your partner!
There are far too many crossdressers and transgender women in the closet. I have heard enough stories about secrets, but I have also heard many stories of success. Secrets hurt and indicate shame. Being yourself is not shameful. It’s time to come out of the closet, clear the clutter and make room for more shoes!
Here are some tips from couples on how to incorporate your feminine side into a successful, loving relationship:
Leanne, Transformation Maven of Lesada, located in London, Ontario Canada, is a coach and beauty consultant who specializes in empowering crossdressers and transgender women. Lesada offers full feminization services through makeovers, cosmetics & comportment lessons, wig & breast form fittings, style consulting, life and health coaching, shopping excursions and more! Leanne also coaches and supports couples who want to welcome crossdressing into their relationships.
It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Many of us grow into the names we are given at birth. Others never feel a connection to their name.
But crossdressers and transgender women have the unique advantage of being able to choose their feminine names.
There’s a unique story behind every great femme name… and I’d love to hear YOURS!
Please share your story in the comments below. And for extra credit, include a photo! It’s even better to be able to place a name to a face.
Love,
Jessica
Winter is a great time to present yourself as a woman. But it can also be challenging… After all, it’s hard to look your best when you’re bundled in layers.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t look sexy and feminine despite the cold!
In this article, I share 4 easy ways to feminize your look for the winter – so you can look stunning all year round.
Your coat is the first thing people see when it’s cold. In fact, it might be the ONLY thing they see you in, so it’s an important piece in your feminine wardrobe.
Here are some dos and don’ts to consider:
Winter is the perfect time to show off your legs in tights, pantyhose, and stockings.
There are so many options for making a fashion statement, so be bold and play with bright colors, fun prints, and sexy textures. Ribbed and cable knit tights look especially cute this time of year.
Don’t blend in with the gray, dreary weather. A great way to stand out is to wear bright colors.
Instead of a basic black winter coat, why not try something fun? Coats come in a rainbow of colors these days and range from pastels to jewel tones.
If a neutral coat is more your style, you can still add a touch of bold color with your scarf, hat, and gloves.
Wearing cute boots is the best part about cold weather!
But if you’re walking on ice and slush, heels can be a nightmare. This doesn’t mean you must resort to chunky, unattractive snow boots though.
Instead, look for boots with a wedge heel. The height of the heel adds sex appeal, while a wedge sole gives you traction so you don’t slip.
Even if you don’t go outside en femme, these tips can still apply. Why not be a snow bunny for your next private photo shoot? You don’t have to show skin to look sexy!
I’d love to see your favorite winter look, so please share your photos below!
Love,
Jessica
Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks?
It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman.
How confident are you about expressing your fab femme self?
Do you think you’d feel more confident if you lost weight, started hormones, or had surgery?
Those things can help, of course, but true confidence comes from within.
Here are 3 ways to feel more confident right now:
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
jessica
Stepping out publicly as a woman is one of the most powerful ways to validate your femme self.
So how often do you do it?
Do you live as a woman full time?
Do you crossdress regularly or on occasion?
Or is the answer (sadly): never?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts in the comments below!
Love,
Jessica
