My Girlfriend turned me into a Girl

Story by Michelle
All this started a couple of years ago when my girlfriend wanted me to go as a woman for Halloween. That first night when I dressed up after shaving my legs wearing a dress, putting on makeup etc. was so exhilarating that I was addicted to the pretty woman I became. I now take better care of myself by properly cleansing my face, wearing night creams, moisturizing my body and the results are really worthwhile.

I always use a "Woman's" salon to get my hair styled and for the past eight months or so, I've let it grow longer and Darlene has always made it more feminine. It's now very close to a pageboy look and I love it. Darlene also knows threading and she has trimmed my eyebrows to a thinner feminine style. The Salon also offers manicures and pedicures, so I try to grow my finger nails as long as possible and wear a very light pink color with clear Gel gloss. My toenails are either pink or red Gel. You can't wear a dress and have ugly hairy legs, so I always have them and my entire body waxed every 3 to 4 weeks. It feels great wearing sheer nylons or pantyhose after getting waxed.

I no longer feel shy or embarrassed entering a woman's clothes boutique. There are 2 lingerie stores and 6 boutiques I regularly go to, even in "Male" mode and buy dresses (Size 6 -8), jeans (Small or 26), tops, accessories and the women treat me like a model. The lingerie store fitted me for corsets, bras, padded panties and all the intimates I would need.

When I started Crossdressing a couple of years ago, I purchased a pair of shoes online and was very disappointed, as they didn't fit as well as I hoped and didn't look as good as in the photo. I then found a few local stores that had shoes in large sizes (mine are US 11) and it was so much fun actually trying them out in the store. The owners then ordered certain styles just for me. I now have over 25 pairs of boots, stilettos, sandals, sling-backs from 3 to 5 inches. The only other thing I purchased online was breast forms for my 36C bras.

Recently I began getting facials and body exfoliation....mmmmmm what a treat and last week got my ears pierced. Yesterday I bought some pretty dangly earrings, bracelets, a watch and a few rings.

Anyhow my girlfriend loves my Crossdressing and I've come out of the closet a month ago to go shopping, to the movies and restaurants. For the New Year, I will announce my Crossdressing to my parents and at my work and plan to live 24/7 as a woman.

My girlfriend and I plan to get married next year and hopefully both of us will be a bride.

Dressing, then acting and being a woman has brought out an entirely different and exciting personality compared to the drab person I am as Michael. I have more friends...mostly girls, who love the feminine me. I'm on a new and exciting path in life and will never turn back.

Michelle

 Source: www.transvestitelounge.com

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More Women than I thought like crossdressers

Story by Fluffy
I first discovered crossdressing when I was in my late teens. I can’t say it was only about clothes. I was also very excited just about trying something I was not supposed to try. It was a big secret and I made sure to keep it that way. The thought of having a girlfriend who I could tell about it seemed like a dream and I didn’t think there were any women who might like it. Especially I love the petticoats and full skirts. It was such an amazing thing when I first tried one on - like a drug and I got hooked and I always will be. Never got much into the makeup thing though. I guess we all have our own type of crossdresser in us.


But fortune has it that I did meet someone special who I trusted enough to tell her about my crossdressing. I’m so lucky because like you she didn’t only accept me as a crossdresser but she even loved that part of me. In some of your articles you describe your relationship with your crossdressing boyfriend and it reminds me of my own that I had with my girlfriend. She persuaded me to put on girls’ clothes as often as I used to think of it myself. I’d never have thought that one day I’d be so lucky to have such a relationship. Clearly I was wrong that there are no women who like it. There are. I’ve met one myself.


This story is not only happy though I’m afraid. Our relationship didn’t last due to unfortunate circumstances of us ending up in different countries. But something great happened to me because of her. I’m not that lonely boy anymore who only dreams about meeting a woman who likes crossdressers. My ex girlfriend taught me that I can realistically expect to meet more women like that and your articles have reinforced that further. Now I’m much more optimist than before and I just know there are many women out there who love crossdressers. Please give this story to other crossdressers. I know how hard it can be to be optimistic when you’ve not yet told anyone but perhaps my story will help give them hope too.


Oh and I definitely think you’re right about how to come out to your girlfriend. If my ex would have found out years after knowing me she would never have been so open. It makes all the difference in the world telling her the right way.

Source: www.transvestitelounge.com

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The Transcendgender Way (by Michèle Angélique)

As discussed in my recent article, the Transcendental movement was sparked by a progressive literary guild in the 1800’s whose writings led to freedom for the slaves and uplifted the status of women. We at GenderEvolve are similarly, a literary guild writing to influence freedom for transgendered people and continued improvement of status of women. It is appropriate to renew the legacy of the Transcendentalists by forming a similar paradigm.

Let us direct our efforts to sparking the “Transcendgender” movement. To “transcend” is to rise above, to go beyond, to surpass. Applied in present context, it means to “rise above physical gender”. With this, let us define what holds us together as family and friends, sisters and brothers, for the common purpose of influencing a shift in societal perceptions about transgenderism.

A “Transcendgenderist” believes that all people are gifted with an inherent combination of feminine (Yin) and masculine (Yang) characteristics, independent of biology. Self-actualization is facilitated by understanding one’s own male and female selves, and building upon the strengths of either or both, without being encumbered by the status quo. Transcendgenderists seek abolition of all forms of gender discrimination, and aspire to achieve harmony and equality between man, woman, and everyone in between.

A Transcendgenderist expresses and embodies a unique blend of male and female qualities. (S)he bridges the gender gap through experiential transformation, which may be internal, external, temporary, permanent, frequent or rare, depending upon the individual. In the case of a biological male, transformation entails the internalizing and/or externalizing of a more feminine (Yin) perspective. In the case of a biological female, transformation is internalizing and/or externalizing a more masculine (Yang) perspective. In the case of one who is dedicated to transcending gender, ongoing introspection leads to the evolution of an external image which closely reflects the inner gender balance of that person.

Experiencing a broader realm of gender characteristics, a Transcendgenderist fosters strengths of both genders, while striving for emotional balance and a deeper sense of empathy. By reversing gender perception, a greater understanding is achieved, resulting in the awakening of dormant facilities and realization of latent potentials. Transcendgenderists become more complete human beings through experiential gender transformation, and are eventually able to go beyond, to transcend, gender conflict and become integrated at a higher level. The resulting whole person is greater than the original sum of male/female parts.

Transcendgenderists ascribe to the Transcendentalist motto that all people, regardless of gender, race, religion or creed, have the basic right to “be fully human”. Similarly, Transcendgenderists advocate freedom of expression, tolerance, acceptance, and celebration of diversity. The Transcendentalist movement began an era of progress toward supporting women in masculine roles. It is in this spirit which the Transcendgenderists advocate supporting men in feminine roles.

As a group following in a similar literary path, we at GenderEvolve shall push forth the reawakening of the same transcendent movement which emancipated our brothers and sisters of yore.

Source : genderevolve.blogspot.com

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Forced Feminization

Take your boyfriend and make sure he knows you’re in charge. Then firmly dress him up like a pretty little girl in a sissy dress or any other super girly outfit. Then order him to twirl and model for you while you sit back and enjoy the show. This is what they call forced feminization - the act of stripping his masculinity away from him as part of a domination game and forcing him into the role of a girl.

Essentially it's a form of female domination - perhaps the most intense kind. Because not only is the male subdued by a lady who’s in charge and not only is he humiliated in a manner that’s intoxicating to both partners. But his maleness itself is subdued and hidden away under layers of frills and lace. His beautiful male heart is captured, overwhelmed and engulfed by femininity. After being subjected to feminization, he is now a girl to the outside, a soft feminine little creature and all that made him male is somewhere firmly tucked away under all the softness so nobody can see it. Yep, this really is the ultimate kind of female domination.

There’s more to this than just the forced crossdressing part. Beyond wearing very feminine clothes, FF often involves him taking on other feminine characteristics and also playing the role of stereotypical women or girls. Given the intensity and power as well as the intimacy that a couple experiences, it’s not surprising that FF is a very common theme in the femdom scene. It’s such a big area of its own that it’s become a community in itself.

What’s so exciting about it?

I can tell you why I like it: As someone who loves vulnerability in men, this is a great way to render him vulnerable. Humiliation is another strange one. Of course I don’t enjoy harming people - especially if I care about them, but if you do it right, humiliation can be a fantastic way to get to his heart. It’s like an emotional form of helplessness and vulnerability. Erotic humiliation is a very intimate act if anything. And feminizing him can be a very powerful way to humiliate a man.

Of course, with me, the fact is that my boyfriend enjoys wearing girls clothes and being feminized. Not much force is needed. But, even so, I can still see how he becomes humble and very submissive when feminized. He trusts me and puts his faith in my hands. He lets go of the need to be strong and fearless and isn’t afraid to be weak in my arms. What a beautiful gesture of love that is.

Why does a man like this? I think there are many aspects to it. The male drive to be close to the female is probably at the heart of it. I mean, what better way to be close to femininity than to be overwhelmed by it. So, ironically, FF is perhaps an expression of masculinity after all. Maybe that’s why there seem to be more men who like this than women (if my fan mail is anything to go by).

As in most forms of domination games, there is the idea of losing responsibility. A man who likes to crossdress but feels ashamed of it, might feel better about himself if he’s forced to crossdress. I should point out now that when I mean ‘forced’ I’m really talking about playing a game rather than real force in this article. Just so we’re clear on that.
Is this a new thing?
The concept as a form of humiliation or even punishment has been around for ages. You need not look far to find examples of this. But what I think is fairly new is the idea that FF might be fun for the man being feminized. And I’m not just talking about crossdressers who like being dressed up anyway and this is just another opportunity for them. I mean those who really like the idea of being dressed up against their will. Orperhaps this has been around too but only recently are we talking about these kind of kinks.

If any of you have some thoughts on the subject to share with us, please don’t hesitate to do so in the comments. I ready every comment that comes here even if I don’t always respond.

Lucy

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Being My Wife Girl

I have been browsing your site for a while now and I very much like what I see. I am one of the lucky and very few transvestites who has a wife who participates and has always encouraged my feminine side. Unlike many who began dressing at an early age my dressing began with my wife showing an interest in wanting me in lingerie such as baby dolls and teddies so it's fair to say she feminized me or at least got me interested in feminine things. It was not forced, we discovered these pleasures together although I did feel my masculinity was in question and wondered how far was this going to go. It wasn't until I began shaving all over that I truly appreciated the feel and softness of lace and satin and the wonderful feminine feelings that came with it. The first time I fully dressed in heels and hose and a pretty dress was magic, there was no turning back, I loved what was happening. Like you my wife is not a Dominatrix but sees the playful side of cross dressing as well as the more serious side. I do not pass very well as a woman but I have been out several times in a dress and high heels and each time it was an emotional roller coaster that included fear, excitement and a wonderful feeling of accomplishment. While some men need to climb mountains, race cars, skydive or involve themselves in contact sports my needs have been to explore my feminine side to the fullest. It's not something I can share with the guys over a few beers after work.

I can't speak for other transvestites but you are correct in saying that once a man has been feminized a woman has a fair bit of control over him. I like how you explained having your boyfriend wearing panties when out in mixed company and how he knows you could easily crush him by telling someone, there is a huge amount of trust here. And in my case you are certainly correct about men becoming maids to their wives or girlfriends. Many years ago we were in a fabric store looking for patterns for Halloween costumes when we spotted a pattern for a French maids dress. She picked it up and giggled and commented it wasn't something I would feel comfortable wearing as I would probably be ridiculed where we were planning to go but to me it also meant it wasn't something she would object to. I told her I'd wear it and to hell with what others thought so we bought it. But to make a long story short when I first slipped into that dress I felt like a complete sissy in front of her yet it was strangely exciting when she giggled. It was obvious she was amused and even though I felt somewhat embarrassed all I could think of doing was to curtsy and that got her laughing saying I'd have to learn to do better. I knew then and there where my crossdressing was going, I was going to become her maid. It's not full time nor am I expected to be her maid but I love doing household chores in my dress and I look forward to weekends so I can dress up and play the part, it gets the work done and my wife doesn't have to do it, it's a win win situation. As I mentioned in one of my posts here I never did wear my dress to the Halloween party, it wasn't just the fear of being ridiculed but since my legs were shaved and I had mastered walking in high heels there was no way people would believe this was my first time dressed and I wasn't ready to be outed as a transvestite in front of friends. On the up side of things though my wife tells me her friends often complain that their husbands are lazy and do nothing around the house and they know that I do lots, only not what I wear. She'd like to brag that she has a maid and offer my services but we both know it's best keeping our little secret but I must admit the thought of being sent to clean someone else's house has an element of fun to it. 

As much as I enjoy the playful side of dressing up I do have a serious side too. I have a fairly substantial wardrobe of skirts and blouses as well as sweaters and dresses and a lot of lingerie and shoes, much of it gifts from my wife. She has helped me pick things that suit me and encourages me to dress my age. I once bought a short plaid skirt that was more suited to a teenager and although she said it was cute I learned it's best that we discuss any purchases together. Some couples have boundaries, some don't but one thing is certain, when a woman prefers a feminine man he should not be afraid to explore the other side of the fence.

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Mrs.Cunberg Male Crossdressor

I found an interesting item on eBay this morning: a photo of a crossdressed man. Although it is a nice colorized photo, it is the accompanying description that I found interesting.

Here is the description unedited:

"THIS IS ACTUALLY MY GRANDFATHER,HE WAS SO GOOD AT DRESSING LIKE A WOMAN THAT WHEN HE TOOK MY FATHER TO SCHOOL ALL HIS CLASSMATES WOULD GREET HIM AS MRS,CUNBERG,IM SHOCKED TO FIND PICTURE AS IT WAS HIDDEN VERY WELL IN ATTIC, MY FATHER WAS NOT HAPPY ABOUT IT BUT SAID HE WAS A WONDERFULL MAN,"

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Femme Men

Something I didn’t see coming. All this time I’ve been working on myself. Trying to be more femme. Trying to perfect my makeup. Trying out heels for men. Trying out cross dressing lingerie. It’s not easy. It takes lots of concentration and focus. Is it any wonder that we tv/cd girls have gotten a reputation for being self-absorbed? Look at all we have to concentrate on just to walk out our front doors! (It’s a wonder that we’re not more self-absorbed than we already are.)

None of this comes that naturally to us. And yet, for me at least, a lot of it does come naturally, once I let my guard down and allow myself to be free of my traditional male patterns of behavior. It’s all part of the process, I think. To change our appearance. To change our physical movements. And, most importantly, to change the way we think. To think more like a woman. Or at least to think more from a woman’s point of view. 

But what about when it comes to sex and romance? Now, a lot of you probably aren’t looking for sex or romance when you dress. Perhaps you’re already in a committed relationship. Or perhaps you don’t have a strong urge to engage in intimate relationships right now. But for those of you who do have the urge, you’ll find that there are a lot of options out there! And it can get pretty intense.

When I started dressing, I didn’t give much thought to romance. I liked women (genetic women), and I never expected that to change. I was perfectly happy being a str-aight male. But a funny thing happened on my way to a lifetime of heterosexuality. My straight road curved.

It wasn’t long after I started hanging out with other cd/tv girls that I began to feel myself attracted to them. This wasn’t something I planned or even expected. This wasn’t something that people tried to talk me into. But there it was. Suddenly. An attraction to other T’s. It’s pretty simple to understand I think. You are so attracted to the feminine image that you want to emulate it. You begin paying attention to all kinds of details you missed before. Makeup and hair styles. Clothing styles. Accessories. Gestures. You find yourself not just looking at girls, but studying them. You study them on the TV, in movies, and in magazines. You reach the point where you’re obsessed with feminine style. And then you walk into a bar filled with a whole lot of tgirls and cross dressers who feel exactly the same way. You share similar passions. For heels. For corsets. For hosiery for men! So it’s not that much of a leap to think you might develop a passion for one another.

For lack of a better term, I “hooked up” with a few tgirls and found I really liked it. I’m not going to go into a lot of details here. (It’s not that kind of blog! LOL!) But I had fun and I hope my partners did too. Of course, like your first attempts at romance in your teen years, your first attempts at romance in tgirl world will probably be fraught with nervousness, awkwardness, and a fair amount of stumbling around in the dark. So what? You enjoyed (and survived) all that as a teen. Chances are you’ll enjoy (and survive) all of that awkwardness now! 

It was a big step for me… to explore romance from the perspective of my CiCi persona. But my attraction to men kind of blindsided me. I really didn’t see myself ever going that way. I’d never been attracted to men in my male life. Although, I have to admit that in my fantasies, I’d been with both men and women, and everything in between. (I have a pretty healthy fantasy life.) But that was just fantasy. I never thought I’d want to be with a man in real life. Heck, most of my cd momentum had me moving further and further away from all things masculine. But then it happened.

I may have discussed this before. Sorry if I’m being redundant. But it was so simple. After a club shut down one night, a nice man walked me to my car. We held hands. He wasn’t pushy. He seemed almost protective. We chatted briefly when we got to my car. And then we kissed good night. Nothing dramatic. No fireworks. No falling stars. But all very nice. And, much to my surprise, very erotic to me.

It was just a few moments in time. But it changed completely the way I thought about men. More importantly, it changed the way I thought about myself. Here I was, trying to be so girlie in so many ways. And I’d overlooked the one thing, above all else, that can make a person feel girlie: a man!

That’s what started me on this new path. And there’s no going back now. I guess this means I’m officially gay. Or bi. Or whatever. (I’m kinda having too much fun to care.) Now, I don’t think I can convince anyone else to like men. To change their sexual orientation. I don’t think I have the power to convert anyone. But I can tell my story. And maybe it will have an effect on someone.

You see. I know a lot of tgirls online who start their profile with the words, “No Men.” And then I hear them talk about how they can’t meet someone who will accept them. They talk about how lonely they are. And I want to say to them, “Maybe it’s time to broaden your horizons.” You know? Maybe you’ve never been attracted to men. But maybe your social programming has gotten the better of you. Maybe the extent of your social programming was so complete, that you never gave the thought of sex or romance with a man any real consideration. 

Now don’t get me wrong! It’s not like men don’t come with baggage of their own. I’m sure you’ve already heard the stories. They’re only interested in one thing. They cancel at the last minute. They pull “no shows.” And often when they do show up, they don’t want to be seen in public with you. Plus, a lot of them are tense because they’re cheating on their wives or girlfriends. (Of course, all of this is nothing new to our gg sisters. Gender girls have known about all this for centuries.)

Still, that’s my advice to you. If you’re lonely. Or unsatisfied. Or just plain bored. Why not open yourself to the possibility of something new. (Or someone new?) If you honestly consider it, and it still doesn’t work for you – well, then, at least you gave it a try. But new experiences, new possibilities, new ways of seeing yourself in a more feminine role? That’s what this whole tgirl thing is all about, isn’t it? 

Take care out there!

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